Things not to say in a fight

Things not to say in a fight

Things not to say in a fight

My husband and I have been married for 10 years but we celebrate 11 years together on June 22nd.  I will be honest and admit that during this time we have endured numerous fights, many that were silly and needless.  We have compiled a list of 11 things not to say in a fight. Each of these is something one of us has said in a fight. I highly urge you when in an argument, fight or discussion, DO NOT repeat any of these 11 phrases.

Things not to say in a fight

  1. Now, I know why your ex- wife divorced you
  2. Let’s just skip the fighting and move to the “Make-Up Sex”, you know we are going to get there anyways.
  3. Why does it always have to be about you?
  4. Can you stop yelling? I am trying to watch the game.
  5. I Hate You!
  6. Will this take long, I have something to do?
  7. I’m going to bed!
  8. Now I know why you have been single so long.
  9. What are you making for dinner tonight?
  10. Can I talk now?
  11. What did you say?

I will say after 11 years, the fights are far and few in between. I have learned sometimes that silence is golden. As my mother always said, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all!”

Feeling Brave? Share with us some things you have learned are not good to say in a fight!

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Topic: Things not to Say in a fight

Love Story: Roses

roses

  Love Story

I believe every couple has a love story. I consider a love story something that makes that couple special. The glue that holds them together. A love story to me isn’t a fairy tale. It is the time when you need someone and only the person you loved could understand what you need. I realized quite early in my relationship with my husband that he wasn’t a mind reader. He had no idea what I was thinking and he would rarely guess right. It wasn’t that he didn’t want to it was just that he couldn’t. I may resemble complicated. I decided a would share a chapter in our love story.

I had a particularly trying day. In fact it was capped off with my husband coming home to chaos and changing out of his work clothes only to sit in his chair. I kept waiting for him to get up and help. I mean I am sure he could see that I was at whits end. The house looked like we had been robbed and the kids were literally bouncing on the furniture. He said, “Honey, whats wrong.” The only thing I could think to say is you do not even bring me flowers anymore. I am not sure why that flew out of my mouth. It clearly had nothing to do with the chaos that had taken hold of my world. He said, “He was sorry.” Then life went on.

Love story

That weekend he took the kids out for a couple of hours which I really needed. He came back with a bucket filled with leaves. He got out his shovel. Then he and the kids began to dig. They dug for awhile. I wondered what they were doing outside. I walked outside to see the children watering the branches with leaves. I walked outside to further investigate. He just smiled. The children of course told me “Daddy was bringing me flowers.” I looked at the sticks with leaves and the realized one day they would be flowers. You see my husband is a smart guy he figured out a way that I would always have flowers. I realized that if I told him what I needed he would deliver. He would deliver beyond my imagination because he loves me. The picture above is my roses and my children cut them and bring them to me as well. The secret to a strong relationship is communication.

Topic: Love Story

High School Love Story

High School Love Story

High School Love Story

If someone would have told me when I started high school that I would be
meeting my husband there I would have thought they were crazy! A high school love story
wasn’t something I believed in. I mean who meets the person they are going to spend the rest of their                                                 life with at the age of 15?? I did…

When I think back on our journey thus far it brings me to tears. I
absolutely, 100%, love my husband and I am still in love with him after 12
years.

We met through a group of mutual friends in high school but at the time
Jeff was dating someone else. The first time I met him I knew there was
something special there. About a year later when neither of us was with
anyone we began seeing each other. It seriously was like a fairy tale.
Everyone kept telling me that I was too young to fall in love, and that
you can’t find someone who loves you when you are so young. I was sick of
people thinking I was so naïve. I just knew that he would love and support
me my entire life and I did not care what everyone else. What we had was
special.

High School Love Story

Our relationship was easy and fun. We overcame many obstacles together and
it only made us stronger. After dating for 8 years Jeff asked me to spend
the rest of my life with him at the exact spot where we had our first real
date. It was honestly one of the happiest days of my life. You are
probably thinking if you guys were so in love then why did he wait 8 years
to propose?!? You need to remember we met when I was a teenager and after
graduating high school I went to college, so I was only 22 when he
proposed. We have now been happily married for 4 years and have 2 boys
with another one on the way.
I can honestly say that I sometimes feel guilty because not only does he
respect and love me but he always puts me and our family first. How am I
so lucky to have such an amazing husband? He is my best friend and I look
forward to what the future has in store for us.

“People search their whole lives for one moment of what we share when
we’re together.” – Anonymous

Topic: High School Love Story

My Husband Doesn’t Do it For Me Anymore

My Husband Doesn’t Do it For Me Anymore

 My Husband Doesn't Do It For Me Anymoe

    My Husband Doesn’t Do it For Me Anymore now what? I’m married and this is for life and he just doesn’t do it for me anymore. I really need him to do it for me because I am sick of doing it by myself. I need him to pick things up. I need him to help me. I need him to do it without asking. I need him to take it to the next level!

My Husband Doesn’t Do it For Me Anymore

What I mean is he doesn’t help keep the house clean. He doesn’t get the laundry done. He doesn’t organize any of the family’s appointments. He basically believes he should come in the house and have it done for him. He used to open the car doors and help cook the meals. He used to know where the vacuum is and understand how the mop works.He used to do it for me.

This is a conversation that occurs in a woman’s head. It isn’t one that occurs in my house because my husband does all of the chores for me and with me. We believe that running the house and all that comes with being partners bears joint responsibilities. He actually enjoys cleaning. I think it is because he gets a sense of accomplishment or it could be because it stops my complaining that everything is always a mess. I do suggest that you talk to your husband and tell him how you feel he doesn’t read minds and he isn’t going to clean up unless you ask.

Topic:My Husband Doesn’t Do it For Me Anymore