How My Weight Loss Brought Back the Spark

How My Weight Loss Brought Back the Spark

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When I met my husband 12 years our sex life was full of sparks. Things remained that way for a few years even after the birth of our daughter. She was child #2 as my husband had a son from his first marriage but the early years were still full of  fire. My weight slowly picked up over the years and I didn’t really notice our spark died down to a glowing ember. We blamed it on schedules, illnesses, deaths in the families, and general life for the reason we died out. I now know that there was more to it than that. [Read more…]

Free Printable Bachelorette Party Planning Checklist

Free Printable Bachelorette Party Planning Checklist

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Do you have a Bachelorette party to plan soon? I know there can be a lot that goes into planning a party for the bride, and we might forget something important, so I thought I would make a Free Printable Bachelorette Party Planning Checklist for you to print out and take with you while party planning!  [Read more…]

15 Great Bridal Shower Theme Ideas

Great Bridal Shower Theme Ideas

 

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So someone you love is getting married! First of all, congrats to them, and congrats to you for being awesome and wanting to throw them an awesome Bridal Shower! Now I know you want to make their day special so I wanted to share with you some of these great bridal shower themes for you to go through and make your own! When I got married a few years ago, my wonderful Maid of Honor planned an Alice in Wonderland tea party for my bridal shower to go along with my Alice themed wedding and it was so wonderful! I hope you are having fun in the planning process and I hope some of these great bridal shower theme ideas help you plan a perfect day for the bride-to-be!  [Read more…]

Bachelorette Party Ideas

Bachelorette Party Ideas

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Are you planning a Bachelorette Party for a friend that is getting married? Wanting to find some Bachelorette Party Ideas that are different than something you have seen before? Then you have come to the right place! I have searched all over the place for some fun, new, classic, different, and awesome Bachelorette Party Ideas and put them all in one place for you!  [Read more…]

Why Did I Marry

Why Did I Marry

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I think that is a valid question. It is also one that was asked of me recently. I wasn’t sure why they asked me that because I do have a wonderful husband. It wasn’t like I married a scum bag or anything. The question does however come up in conversation at time. So why did I marry?

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The big why? I guess the answer is why not? I met the right person. That always turns into the next question “How did you know.” I can say I did a lot of interviewing. The real answer is I knew myself. I knew what I wanted in a person and what I was willing to deal with. I never saw the need to partner up. I wasn’t the girl that went to college to get her MRS> degree. I wasn’t the girl that waited for a guy to call. I was the girl that demanded i be treated a certain way and if I wasn’t then I quickly cut the chord.

This is the wonderful response to why did I marry. I just couldn’t imagine not speaking with my husband everyday. I could imagine not seeing him or hearing from him daily. He was frankly the one person I always wanted to talk with. That is why I got married. If you ask me now why I am married I would say I found a true partner. He is a wonderful husband and father. He cleans a mean kitchen and does the laundry because I hate it. He has minor flaws which are far less than mine. He laughs loudly and cares deeply. He is still the person I call everyday or text even though he currently works out of the house with me. We try to remind one another everyday that we love one another. If you are asking yourself why did I marry?  Then you need to ask yourself are you putting enough into your relationship to be successful try our stay home date ideas. I believe that marriage is a commitment and it is your job to work on your marriage daily.

 

 

Anniversary Date Ideas

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Anniversary Date Ideas

Whether you’ve been dating for a month or a year it’s always a great idea to have an anniversary date. Sometimes it’s hard to carve out the time to take you and your special someone on that anniversary date. But you need too. It’s important to always take the time for each other. It’s a subtle reminder of the love you share. [Read more…]

Valentine Writing Paper: Create your own stationary

Valentine Writing Paper

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I remember when my husband and I first started dating. I would sit and write his name and mine. I would doodle on my paper all of the things we had done together. I was supposed to be paying attention to a college lecture but my mind was on him. I decided to make stationary. I created Valentine Writing Paper. I made our own stationary.

You will need the following items:

Paper

Pen

colored markers or colored pencils if you want to make colored stationary. (I did black and white)

A printer that copies or a copy machine

You will begin to write down things like:

When you met

nick names

favorite foods

first kiss location

First dance

Best memory

funniest story

You will document your love story on a piece of paper as an outline.

You can see mine here

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Great ways to Propose

Great ways to Propose

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So you’ve found the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, and now you have to think of some great ways to propose! It will be one of the most memorable moments of your life, so you want to make sure it is perfect! Well I asked around and did some research to find some of the most fun, classic, creative, and all around great ways to propose and I wanted to share them with you! My own proposal  from my husband was simple and sweet, having my then 2 year old daughter run up to me holding a ring box, and him around the corner on 1 knee, so cute and special!  [Read more…]

Marriage Advice Quotes

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Marriage Advice Quotes

I have been married for over a decade. I can say that sometimes I need to call on these Marriage Advice quotes to brave the storm or remind me that a relationship is in some way just like a ship sometimes there is smooth sailing and other times there are rough seas.

If you are thinking it do not say it until you have counted  in your head…

If you think you can change your spouse you shouldn’t have married them until they were fixed…

If you love someone then accept them

If you want great marriage advice do not ask someone who is single… they have failed to have a relationship

If he or she is a slob hire a cleaning person

If you are broke do not spend money you do not have because divorce is more expensive than staying married at least you have a tax write off

Love your spouse like you love a good dessert enjoy but do not become so consumed that you puke

Be the mirror image of what you want

Love is a gift you give yourself and sometime it requires a return policy

The best marriage involves two people a threesome is for quitters

Hold hands and fight fair only say things that you would want said to you

Offer solutions not just problems

Love deeply and be thankful

The best marriage is one that is founded on love, commitment, and honesty

 

Moving and Marriage: Unpacking Love and Intimacy

Reconnecting with your Spouse

Reconnecting with your Spouse

 

 

 Reconnecting with your spouse is often a difficult journey but one worth taking. Moving is the second most stressful thing you will experience after getting married. My family recently relocated due to my husband’s career. Being in the military, we did not have a choice – we were told when and where we were to live. Although, we have moved in the past, this move was much more difficult than the ones in the past. Between three children (one being a baby) and leaving our life we had for five years, I thought my life was spiraling out of control.

My husband moved into our new home six weeks before my children and I joined him. I remained in our old home for those six weeks, while my son finished his school year to help ease the transition. Although we thought this was a great idea for our children, the separation was possibly more difficult on my husband and I.
Through those weeks, the anxiety and to-do lists piled up, along with resentment toward each other. My husband was working long hours getting acclimated to his new job. He was away from our family and driving many miles to see us on the weekends. Mentally and physically he was drained. Unfortunately, I was also drained. The mundane household tasks and caring for my alone zapped the life right out of me. There was not enough time in the day to prepare the house to be packed. I was angry and tired. I hated the separation. I hated that we had to move. And my emotions swelled and I hardened my mind in order to get through the days.
The days dragged by until the moving company arrived. My husband traveled home to help with preparations and packing. Our days together were all business, as we packed and painted and cleaned. Once our home was empty and we finalized the little things, the anxiety and resentment followed us into our new home. Surrounded by boxes and children who desperately wanted our attention, we continued to push one another apart.
I could not tell him that I did not want to be here. I could not say that this place did not feel like my home. And as everything changed around us, we lost our love and our intimacy. The new place was uncomfortable and foreign and nothing about it was a home. I had forgotten what a home was. I had lost myself in the piles of boxes and paper packaging and objects with nowhere to go.

Reconnecting with your Spouse

One night, after the kids were finally asleep, I let go and I talked to husband. We expressed all of the things we had trapped inside these past months. I said I did not want to be here. I said I did not like it and only then did I let go of all the anxiety and resentment. We moved forward together as a couple and we were ready to embrace the new surroundings and life we had. We were able to move past the enormous emotional build up and channel that into finding our intimacy.

We had to find each other again. Since we had shut down intimacy over the past months, a simple touch on the shoulder felt like it was from a stranger. A kiss on the lips was a rush of tingles. We were awkward, like lovers finding one another for the first time. In our new home, we rebuilt all that had been broken down and created a loving environment by making love with a newness and freshness we had never experienced.
Despite the resistance to moving and the change, we allowed the move to bring us closer and find more intimacy than we have had in our ten years together. We made time for us and remembered to unpack our love and find a place in our new home.

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