Second Date Kiss
The problem with dating and relationships today is that they are becoming extinct. When I was a teenager dating, we went to the movies, or bowling, grabbed a bite to eat and got to spend time together and get to know each other. That came before all the other relationship stuff. Now, I am single again and back in the dating world and I have to ask, what the heck happened in the years I wasn’t dating? What happened to dating? Where did the days go when the second date kiss wasn’t expected. These days, it seems as if everyone just skips over the dating and relationship parts. The process is meet, sleep together, maybe have a baby, then on to the next one. Everywhere I look, that’s what I see.
People are bringing children into the world everyday with strangers. Some of these strangers manage to do a great job and co-parent their child. Some don’t. They can’t get along with the other parent because they disagree on everything, but that’s what happens when people that really don’t know each other have a child together. This becomes a cycle, with so many children being raised with parents that don’t really know anything about each other, other then they once were attracted to each other and had sex. These children grow up thinking that this is normal and chances are they will repeat the cycle themselves. Dating is becoming a lost art.
Some people don’t value the important things in life anymore. They don’t want to meet someone and spend quality time together, fall in love, settle down with one person and spend their lives together. They want instant gratification and the person they choose will just be for the moment. This “friends with benefits”thing is the new relationship. I wonder how they will feel about those choices when they are old and alone. I know how I feel about it, and I would rather be alone then be with someone who only wants a physical relationship with no strings attached. If you don’t want to date me or have a relationship with me then you damn sure aren’t getting into bed with me! Hopefully this is just a trend and dating will be “in” again soon. Until that day, all you daters out there just be strong and remember, don’t ever settle for less than what you deserve.
These are cheap dates that anyone can afford you can even have stay at home dates and remember the thrill of getting the second date kiss not getting to second base.
The best way to not get in a situation you can’t handle is to go places in public. Pick a time of day where your date will have to end. It is great to meet people for lunch or a cup of coffee. I say get to know someone and enjoy spending time with them. There is no reason to rush into bed. Work on dating and work on yourself if the first thing you do is hop into bed with a stranger.